(a.k.a. that thing that keeps your relationship going.)
More often than not, I get questions on Tumblr asking me:
“I don’t know if my partner will be into this.”
“I’m scared of my partner’s reaction to me liking kink.”
These questions are VERY common around my Tumblog, so very common that it’s now gotten to the point where I’m blogging about it in general.
Do you remember when you started going out with your partner? Do you remember that question you had to answer to start going out? That’s called communication between you and your partner.
Communication is key between you two. Communication is how you learn what your partner is into, not just in the bedroom, but outside of it.
If you’re scared of communicating with your partner, then why the hell are you dating that person? You should never ever be afraid of your partner. Your partner is there to listen to you.
The worst thing that’s going to happen is your partner is going to say “No.” and then you go from there on how to go ahead. Your partner should be willing to at least be open-minded to you being kinky, even if they’re not into it themselves. Do remember that “No.” means “No.” and do not push the issue, you’ll just stress your partner out and cause tension.
My Master and I have such an open line of communication that we’ve found that we’re the only ones that we can talk to about things.
When I talk to her, it’s easy, it’s like word vomit.
It’s just one of the very many things we love about each other.
