On Communication

(a.k.a. that thing that keeps your relationship going.)

More often than not, I get questions on Tumblr asking me:

“I don’t know if my partner will be into this.”

“I’m scared of my partner’s reaction to me liking kink.”

These questions are VERY common around my Tumblog, so very common that it’s now gotten to the point where I’m blogging about it in general.

Do you remember when you started going out with your partner? Do you remember that question you had to answer to start going out? That’s called communication between you and your partner.

Communication is key between you two. Communication is how you learn what your partner is into, not just in the bedroom, but outside of it.

If you’re scared of communicating with your partner, then why the hell are you dating that person? You should never ever be afraid of your partner. Your partner is there to listen to you.

The worst thing that’s going to happen is your partner is going to say “No.” and then you go from there on how to go ahead. Your partner should be willing to at least be open-minded to you being kinky, even if they’re not into it themselves. Do remember that “No.” means “No.” and do not push the issue, you’ll just stress your partner out and cause tension.

My Master and I have such an open line of communication that we’ve found that we’re the only ones that we can talk to about things.

When I talk to her, it’s easy, it’s like word vomit.

It’s just one of the very many things we love about each other.

In a nutshell, SIT YOUR ASSES DOWN AND TALK AS A COUPLE IF YOU WANT TO GET SOMEWHERE IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP!

Playing with wax

Might be a bit hard to see, but if you look on my pointer finger, there is hardened wax drips.

I stuck both hands in my paraffin wax bath. Dug it out of the closet.

It’s good that I was alone with my thoughts then, because all I kept thinking was “I have better places where this  wax could go..”

Instant cunt throb.

I’m an avid lover of wax play. I see a candle burning, I have to self-control myself NOT to shove fingers in the wax pools.

Not to mention, burning flames are mesmerizing.

Again, self-control is needed to not reach out and poke a flickering flame.

..I just really like wax.

Some of the designs D-types do to their s-types in wax is just…AWESOME.

Bubbly Ranty-ness

I really often try to not let things bother me. I don’t need the stress.

However, when it comes to people throwing around their weight & “I’m all high and mightier than thou!” I get agitated.

This particular person is in their 20s and runs a Tumblr in which I enjoy some of their posts and often reblog them. I don’t know why I mentioned their age, but they surely aren’t acting it.

Today, I was tipped off because this person decided to let their attitude fly full-force.

They claim because they’ve been calling their pet ‘Kitten’ for two years now and people who have Master/pet relationship blogs on Tumblr are ‘unoriginal’ and that ‘it is sad’.

They say they picked the name because it fits their pet most, and that ‘some people think they’re cute playing pretend with their boyfriend’.

I got news for you, High & Mightier than Thou, there’s been people calling their pets, slaves, submissives or what have you ‘kitten’ most likely longer than you’ve been alive.

Either wake up on the right side of the bed or get off your high horse. Your choice.

I happen to enjoy when my girlfriend calls me kitten. It turns me the fuck on, I’m not ‘playing pretend’. I enjoy D/s as much as the next kinkster.

Do me a favor, cut the crap and grow up.

You’re not going to get far in life if you’re a complete fuckin’ wanker.

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source: libraryvixen.tumblr.com

throb..throb..throb..

That’s what my cunt did after I came, and it was hot. I came twice. Once for me, and the bigger one for Master. Then I just laid there, blissed out and shortly fell asleep. What’s funny is my next door neighbours were out being loud & obnoxious and I ended up conking out despite that.

I played a bit of Arkham City and knocked out a few more pages of The New Bottoming Book. So far that is a fantastic read and I look forward to reviewing it once it is done.

Today it’s going to be a pretty average lazy Saturday though. I have some laundry to finish and then whatever I feel like doing after that. Probably more job searching. -sigh- It’s still not going as well as I want it to.

I also realized I’d forgotten to put my watermark on my earlier entry’s photos. Ah well, you can have my deer photos, Internet. I mean, they’re there on the Internet already so I guess it doesn’t matter.

Welp, That laundry isn’t going to fold itself. Off I go!

Bleh.

Image Source: thefuckedupthingsidid

I meant to get this post out earlier. Unfortunately, that thing called ‘life’ kept roadblocking me. Stupid life, y u do dis?

Anyway, I would have not updated today as I would be basically avoiding the Internetz except for my iPod really. I was holed up in bed due to zapped energy again. What got me up was every last bedsheet ripped off and thrown in the washer. I had no choice but to get up because I was now freezing. I figured what the hell, and finished washing the bedstuff, at least at the end of it they’d be clean and not to mention WARM.

I’m not really looking forward to tomorrow, but at least I have enough electronic devices to keep me busy now. Trying to decide if I want to change my DS Lite or PSP….or…bring both? I know I am bringing my phone and my iPod to talk to Master and my Kindle. Debating if I want to bring my Chromebook and take advantage of the free 3G, however, last time I did that, I ripped through the 100MB in a couple of hours no sweat.

I rather stay home tomorrow and cuddle with Master much like the lovely women are doing in my featured image there.

I have a scheduled post set up for tomorrow. Spanksgiving! Bauhahahaha. Now, that’s something I would look forward to.

In closing, there are some really random people on Tumblr.

I’m not sure if this was in response to my weekly participation in TMI Tuesday/Thursday since I don’t do any of that Topless Tuesday/Half-Nekkid Thursday stuff. I only do that for Master. :P But anyway, since these were posted anonymously, no need to P’Shop the usernames, with that said, this is mostly for WTF!?’s, because frankly, that’s what Master and I both did upon reading them.

Sex? Not with you!

Didn't see that comin' did you?

Yeah…Master and I don’t even fucking know either. I can’t even..

Effort!

Since this is a blog space I’m actually paying for I’m going to try to use it more. Maybe post my favorite Tumblr re-blog of the day if I can’t think of anything to write.

Since my Tumblr isn’t ‘financially supported’ by me, about the only thing I’d lose out there is followers and quite frankly my reaction to that? -big ol’ shrug-

I won’t be reviewing for about a week or so, I don’t get another ‘free’ until the 5th, and Babeland’s choices haven’t been updated yet. -sad face-

Eden has so much new stuff that I’m just like -point- WANT. -point- WANT. -point- WANT.

Not enough points or GCs for it all, though. -sigh-

In time, I hope to.

My Seasonal Affective Disorder is effortlessly kicking my ass. Past few days have been rainy and gross, in which I haven’t had the energy to hop out of bed as soon as my alarm goes off. I turn it off and go back to sleep. Bad idea I know, but bleh. When you’re completely zapped for energy to even stand, what can you do?

So Thursday, it’s Thanksgiving.  I’m not really looking forward to it, but I suppose I’ll suck it up and deal with it.  I don’t particularly get on with the family we’re visiting due to their overtly religiousness and my sexual orientation colliding. A few months back actually, we had a family member over and it just ended with me indirectly getting offended over a “I hope it’s not the ‘other’ gay” remark.

Since then, that side of the family just makes me seethe with anger, and the less I have to see them the better. That’s all they seem to talk about when we’re all gathered; the government, how being gay is sin,  petitioning gay marriage, things that  make me angry.

About the only thing I can agree on is the USGov being shit. I mean, come on, Congress ruling pizza a vegetable?

And that Internet censorship bill?

GTFO.

I think I’m done here for tonight…